Dear Stranded

AITA for annoying my (20F) roommate (2007F) because we have different cultures?

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I (20F) co-signed a lease with Drusilla (2007F) in August. At first she seemed nice enough, even though she paid the first few month’s rent in Athenian drachma–which, by the way, is such a pain to convert! She was a great roommate at first! As an introvert, I really appreciate that she kept to herself, even if she took it to a bit of an extreme (like, she never even left her room in the daytime). 

Quickly though, things started getting kind of… weird. She’s completely filled our fridge with this weird red looking smoothie drink, and pretty much every time I see her she’s slurping on it. When I asked her about it, she said it was the traditional drink of her culture and I was being insensitive to even bring it up. 

Also, our landlord was really clear that our apartment had no pets allowed, and I’m 99 per cent sure she has a bat! I’m terrified of bats, but it only flies around the apartment at night, so I’ve taken to locking myself in my room so I don’t have to see the thing. 

I’ve complained about this to Drusilla, but she says she’s never seen a bat in the apartment at all, and I must be making it up for attention. The most annoying part is I can never prove it to her, because the bat always seems to be there whenever Drusilla isn’t. 

I get the sense Drusilla’s getting annoyed with me, too. She’s always saying that I don’t respect her friends. Drusilla and her two friends Vlad (594M) and Cleopatra (2024F) make it so hard! They’re always inviting strange people over to the apartment who always leave with bite marks on their necks. Every single time I notice, Drusilla says the person was mauled by a bear, and Vlad and Cleopatra laugh. I’m not going to pry into their private life, but it’d be nice to not be treated like a child. 

Also, she’s not that respectful herself! My Catholic friend Kelsey (21F) came over last week, and she was wearing a cross. Drusilla pointed at her necklace, screamed, and accused Kelsey of trying to murder her! Talk about an overreaction. 

I went into her room to talk things over the next morning (after I had cooled down), but Drusilla just screamed at me that I was letting the sunlight in and it would be the death of her. I mean, I’m just as worried about skin cancer as the next person, but that just seems excessive. 

Drusilla has told me that I’m not respecting her culture and she wants an apology from me. So: am I the asshole? 

675 COMMENTS

elenagilbert

NTA. It sounds like you and your roommate just have very different lifestyles! It might be time for you and Drusilla to find different places to live!

Vanhelsing22

LMAO… it sounds like your roommate is a vampire!

Unsuspectinghuman 

What’s a vampire? 

Vanhelsing22

GIRL